{"id":7174,"date":"2025-04-24T13:05:16","date_gmt":"2025-04-24T10:05:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/?p=7174"},"modified":"2025-04-24T13:05:19","modified_gmt":"2025-04-24T10:05:19","slug":"bir-kucuk-dogum-meselesi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/2025\/04\/24\/bir-kucuk-dogum-meselesi\/","title":{"rendered":"Bir K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck(!) Do\u011fum Meselesi"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Merhaba Sevgili K\u0131zkarde\u015fim,<\/p>\n

G\u00fcn ge\u00e7miyor ki bedenlerimiz, haklar\u0131m\u0131z ve a\u015fklar\u0131m\u0131z \u00fczerine konu\u015fulmayan bir g\u00fcne uyanal\u0131m. Yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131n, konu\u015fmak derken biz kad\u0131nlar ve LGBT\u0130+’lar\u0131n feminist politika geli\u015ftirmek ve deneyim aktarmak \u00fczerine birbirimizle yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z konu\u015fmalardan bahsetmiyorum. Bir gece yar\u0131s\u0131 veya sabah\u0131n k\u00f6r\u00fcnde, adam ya da adamlar\u0131n bir y\u00f6netmelikle sadece bizi ilgilendiren konularda akla zarar kararlar almas\u0131ndan bahsediyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Peki, kim bu adamlar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu adamlar sadece erkeklerden olu\u015fmuyor, fakat \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011funu erkeklerin olu\u015fturdu\u011fu AKP-MHP fa\u015fist iktidar\u0131 dedi\u011fimiz bir blo\u011fun temsilcileri. Ve \u015fu s\u0131ralar, anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00fczere, kafalar\u0131na takt\u0131klar\u0131 tek konu”kad\u0131nlar\u0131n do\u011furganl\u0131\u011f\u0131\u201d ve \u201cnas\u0131l do\u011furacaklar\u0131”. Tabii, buna \u00f6yle i\u015fleri g\u00fc\u00e7leri olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in kafay\u0131 takm\u0131yorlar. Aksine, en \u00f6nemli i\u015flerinden biri bu oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in tak\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bildi\u011finiz gibi me\u015fhur bakanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z (Aile ve Sosyal Hizmetler Bakanl\u0131\u011f\u0131) bu seneyi “Aile Y\u0131l\u0131” ilan etti. Ba\u015fka bir yaz\u0131da aile dedi\u011fimiz \u015feyi elbet konu\u015furuz ama biz kad\u0131nlar, kad\u0131n \u00f6rg\u00fctleri ve \u00e7e\u015fitli sivil toplum \u00f6rg\u00fctleri, aile y\u0131l\u0131n\u0131 duyar duymaz \u015fu soruyu sorduk:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Hangi ailelerin y\u0131l\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/strong>Asgari \u00fccretle ge\u00e7inmek zorunda olan ailelerin mi mesela? Ya da emekli maa\u015f\u0131 ile ge\u00e7inmek zorunda kalan ailelerin mi? Hatay’da tapulu mallar\u0131na devlet taraf\u0131ndan el konulup bah\u00e7esindeki a\u011fa\u00e7lar\u0131 s\u00f6k\u00fclen aileler aile de\u011fil miydi?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n sorular\u0131 biter mi? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Nas\u0131l ailelerin y\u0131l\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/strong>Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n, hakk\u0131nda uzakla\u015ft\u0131rma karar\u0131 ald\u0131rd\u0131klar\u0131 eski e\u015fleri taraf\u0131ndan katledildikleri ailelerin mi y\u0131l\u0131? \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n aile i\u00e7inde istismar edildi\u011fi ama istismar\u0131n yine aile i\u00e7inde kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 ailelerin mi? Bolu’da otel yang\u0131n\u0131nda yok olan aileler peki? 19 Mart’tan sonra tutuklanan ve h\u00e2l\u00e2 tahliye edilmeyen gen\u00e7lerin ailelerini nerede konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131z?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Bekle sevgili k\u0131zkarde\u015fim. En zor soruyu en sona saklad\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Neden aile y\u0131l\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/strong>Biliyoruz ki kad\u0131nlar en \u00e7ok aile i\u00e7lerinde katledilirken<\/a>, ev i\u00e7inde kad\u0131n\u0131n verdi\u011fi bak\u0131m eme\u011fi yine aile taraf\u0131ndan g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez k\u0131l\u0131n\u0131rken, \u00e7ocuklar en yak\u0131nlar\u0131ndaki aile \u00fcyeleri taraf\u0131ndan istismar edilirken neden aile y\u0131l\u0131?\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Biz daha sorulacak sorular\u0131 bile toparlayamadan, onlar bize aile y\u0131l\u0131 dedikleri \u015feyden bir kuple \u00f6rnek g\u00f6stererek ba\u015flad\u0131lar i\u015fe. S\u00f6z\u00fcm ona \u201caile destek paketi\u201d ile do\u011fum yapan kad\u0131nlara, ilk \u00e7ocuktan \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc \u00e7ocu\u011fa do\u011fru kademeli olarak “destek” verilece\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131lar. E, adettendir; destek deyince yine sormadan edemedik: Hangi destekten bahsediyorsunuz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mesela do\u011fumdan sonra kad\u0131nlar\u0131n i\u015fe yeniden ve h\u0131zl\u0131ca d\u00f6nebilmeleri i\u00e7in verilmesi gereken kre\u015f deste\u011finden mi? Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n, s\u0131rf do\u011fum yapt\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in b\u0131rakmak zorunda kald\u0131klar\u0131 i\u015flerine d\u00f6nd\u00fcklerinde, kariyer basamaklar\u0131 \u00f6n\u00fcndeki engelleri kald\u0131racak destekler mi? Peki, esnek \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda haftan\u0131n belirli g\u00fcnlerinde kad\u0131nlar\u0131 g\u00fcvencesiz \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak, destek kelimesinin hangi anlam\u0131na denk d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130lgin\u00e7tir, daha vajinal kelimesini bile kullanamayanlar, kullanmaya utananlar kad\u0131nlar\u0131n sezaryen ile do\u011fum yapmalar\u0131n\u0131 yasakl\u0131yor. Hayatlar\u0131nda belki de hi\u00e7 denk ve \u00f6zg\u00fcr bir ili\u015fki ya\u015famam\u0131\u015f olanlar, sokakta \u00f6p\u00fc\u015fenler i\u00e7in hapis cezas\u0131 vermeyi teklif ediyor. Onlar\u0131n aile y\u0131l\u0131 dedi\u011fi, sadece kad\u0131n ve erkek aras\u0131nda olan; kad\u0131nlar\u0131n en az \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocuk do\u011furdu\u011fu, bunu da “normal” sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131; yine kad\u0131n\u0131n iyi bir anne ve makbul bir e\u015f olup patriyarkal kapitalizmin nas\u0131l i\u015fine geliyorsa \u00f6yle \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131; her haliyle eme\u011fimizin, bedenimizin ve hayatlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc bir d\u00fczen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6nceki yaz\u0131l<\/a>arda da bahsetti\u011fim gibi do\u011furmak ya da do\u011furmamak, nas\u0131l do\u011furaca\u011f\u0131na ya da do\u011furmayaca\u011f\u0131na karar vermek, sadece kad\u0131nlar\u0131 ilgilendiren bir konu. Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n karar a\u015famas\u0131ndan sonra e\u011fer do\u011furmak isterlerse \u00e7ocuk ve anne sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile ilgili her \u015feye h\u0131zl\u0131, g\u00fcvenilir ve e\u015fit bir \u015fekilde ula\u015fmas\u0131, do\u011furmay\u0131 tercih etmezlerse  gebeli\u011fi sonland\u0131rma, s\u00fcrece dair gereken maddi ve manevi her deste\u011fin sa\u011flanmas\u0131 yine devletin sorumlulu\u011fu ve g\u00fcvencesi alt\u0131nda olmal\u0131. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6zetle, sevgili k\u0131zkarde\u015fim, bir kez daha g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz ki erkek egemen zihniyetin t\u00fcm ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z hakk\u0131nda karar vermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00fczende att\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her ad\u0131m \u00f6rg\u00fctl\u00fc olmak zorunda. Yoksa bunlar h\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 alamay\u0131p nas\u0131l nefes alaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z hakk\u0131nda da bir y\u00f6netmelik yaz\u0131verecekler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130yi ki kad\u0131n m\u00fccadelesi var.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130yi ki Mor Dayan\u0131\u015fma var.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Merhaba Sevgili K\u0131zkarde\u015fim, G\u00fcn ge\u00e7miyor ki bedenlerimiz, haklar\u0131m\u0131z ve a\u015fklar\u0131m\u0131z \u00fczerine konu\u015fulmayan bir g\u00fcne uyanal\u0131m. Yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131n, konu\u015fmak derken biz kad\u0131nlar ve LGBT\u0130+’lar\u0131n feminist politika geli\u015ftirmek ve deneyim aktarmak \u00fczerine birbirimizle yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z konu\u015fmalardan bahsetmiyorum. Bir gece yar\u0131s\u0131 veya sabah\u0131n k\u00f6r\u00fcnde, adam ya da adamlar\u0131n bir y\u00f6netmelikle sadece bizi ilgilendiren konularda akla zarar kararlar almas\u0131ndan bahsediyorum.…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":7176,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","_eb_attr":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1250,100,1266],"tags":[1360,1393,311],"ppma_author":[591],"class_list":["post-7174","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-annelik","category-bedenimiz","category-lgbti","tag-aile-yili","tag-dogum","tag-kadinmucadelesi","author-aysegul"],"authors":[{"term_id":591,"user_id":0,"is_guest":1,"slug":"aysegul","display_name":"Ay\u015feg\u00fcl Tem\u00fcr","avatar_url":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/wp-content\/litespeed\/avatar\/4e85db3e916097bd685fe0d0033e9fb9.jpg?ver=1784243256","author_category":"1","first_name":"Ay\u015feg\u00fcl","last_name":"Tem\u00fcr","user_url":"","job_title":"","description":"aysegultemur@mordayanisma.org"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7174","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7174"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7174\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7176"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7174"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7174"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7174"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=7174"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}