{"id":4066,"date":"2023-12-19T19:09:06","date_gmt":"2023-12-19T16:09:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mordayanisma.org\/?p=4066"},"modified":"2025-06-17T18:59:57","modified_gmt":"2025-06-17T15:59:57","slug":"toksik-zehirli-iliskiler-ve-guclenme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/2023\/12\/19\/toksik-zehirli-iliskiler-ve-guclenme\/","title":{"rendered":"Toksik (Zehirli) \u0130li\u015fkiler ve G\u00fc\u00e7lenme"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>\u201cEn iyi y\u0131llar\u0131m u\u00e7up gitti. Seninle cebelle\u015fece\u011fim diye b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fczel huylar\u0131m de\u011fi\u015fti. Sert, kaba, \u00fcrkek, i\u015fkilli bir insan oldum.\u201d<\/em><\/h4>\n<span hidden class=\"__iawmlf-post-loop-links\" data-iawmlf-links=\"[{&quot;id&quot;:340,&quot;href&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/www.5harfliler.com\\\/kullerinden-dogmayan-kadinlar-ya-bizi-oldurmeyen-sey-guclendirmiyorsa&quot;,&quot;archived_href&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/web-wp.archive.org\\\/web\\\/20260124211759\\\/https:\\\/\\\/www.5harfliler.com\\\/kullerinden-dogmayan-kadinlar-ya-bizi-oldurmeyen-sey-guclendirmiyorsa\\\/&quot;,&quot;redirect_href&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;checks&quot;:[{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-05-22 01:31:06&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:200},{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-06-07 22:06:15&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:200}],&quot;broken&quot;:false,&quot;last_checked&quot;:{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-06-07 22:06:15&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:200},&quot;process&quot;:&quot;done&quot;}]\"><\/span>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>K\u0131\u015f Uykusu<\/em> filminin bir sahnesinde, Nihan karakterinin evli oldu\u011fu erkekle diyalo\u011fu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gen\u00e7, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, gururlu ve hayat dolu bir kad\u0131nken ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 toksik ili\u015fki y\u00fcz\u00fcnden bo\u015flukta, can s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131 ve korku i\u00e7inde eriyip giden, hayat\u0131 kemirilen, g\u00fcc\u00fc kalmayan bir kad\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6zetledi\u011fi bir replik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7o\u011fu insan bu s\u00f6zleri \u00e7ok yak\u0131n hissetmi\u015ftir kendine. Hemen bir film \u015feridi gibi ge\u00e7er g\u00f6zlerinin \u00f6n\u00fcnden evi, i\u015fi, a\u015fk\u0131 ve bir\u00e7ok ili\u015fkisi. Kopmak, ka\u00e7mak, bitirmek, hay\u0131r demek, yeniden ba\u015flamak, bir \u015fans daha vermek, bu sefer de\u011fi\u015fece\u011fine olan inan\u00e7\u2026 T\u00fcm karma\u015f\u0131k duygular\u0131 i\u00e7inde bar\u0131nd\u0131ran \u201cacaba\u201dlar ili\u015fkileridir toksik ili\u015fkiler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu yaz\u0131mda a\u015fk ili\u015fkilerimize de\u011finece\u011fim. Biraz on(lar)dan, biraz ili\u015fkilerimizden ama en \u00e7ok da patriyarkal kapitalist sistemin duygusal-romantik ili\u015fkilerimiz \u00fczerindeki g\u00f6lgesinden bahsedece\u011fim. Ve yeniden aya\u011fa kalkmay\u0131, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n sorumlulu\u011funu almay\u0131, g\u00fc\u00e7lenmeyi anlataca\u011f\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Peri masal\u0131ndan \u201c\u00f6ld\u00fcren sevgi istemiyoruz\u201da ne zaman ge\u00e7tik?<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Egemen patriyarkal kapitalist ili\u015fkiler, toplumsal ili\u015fkilerin her bi\u00e7imine sirayet eder. \u0130li\u015fkilere kendi rengini vermek i\u00e7in canh\u0131ra\u015f sava\u015f\u0131r. \u0130n\u015fa etti\u011fi cinsiyet\u00e7i ezilme bi\u00e7iminin devam etmesi i\u00e7in insan ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n var etti\u011fi g\u00fczel duygular\u0131 birer \u00e7\u00f6pe d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cA\u015fk zaman\u0131n sonsuzlu\u011fu kapsayabildi\u011finin kan\u0131t\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d der Badiou. Gard\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcren, beklemedi\u011fimiz bir anda her bir h\u00fccremizi saran s\u0131cak ve yo\u011fun bir duygunun canl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fatan, ba\u015f d\u00f6nd\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc bir ba\u011f. Hemen kap\u0131lman\u0131n verdi\u011fi enerji ve v\u00fccudumuza akan bu duygunun yo\u011funlu\u011fu, aya\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bast\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zemini sarsar. Yine de onu ya\u015faman\u0131n verdi\u011fi g\u00fczellikten vazge\u00e7emeyiz. Yeni bizin olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131r, heyecanland\u0131r\u0131r bizi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00fcvenli bir ili\u015fkiye do\u011fru \u00e7ubu\u011fun b\u00fck\u00fclece\u011fine dair olan inan\u00e7 ba\u015flar i\u00e7imizde. \u0130li\u015fkiden beklentimiz zamanla kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 bir m\u00fczakere s\u00fcreci olur; s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n ke\u015ffedildi\u011fi, birbirimizin hayat\u0131ndaki dinamikleri g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz, ortak ya\u015famda bunlar\u0131 \u00f6nemsedi\u011fimiz, tekil olarak g\u00fc\u00e7lenirken ili\u015fkinin de diyalektik olarak g\u00fc\u00e7lendi\u011fi, beslendi\u011fi\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ta ki o bir an, yo\u011fun duygular\u0131n k\u00f6t\u00fc bir hik\u00e2yeye evrildi\u011fini fark etti\u011fimiz o an, kutsanma halinin biti\u015finin ilan\u0131na dek\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Baz\u0131 \u015feyler de\u011fi\u015fir. \u0130lk zamanlar\u0131n yo\u011funlu\u011funun azalmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 o anda bir \u015feyler olmaya ba\u015flar. \u201cAcaba\u201dlar, s\u0131n\u0131rlar, s\u0131n\u0131rlamalar, susmalar, biriken \u015feylerin ani patlamalar\u0131, beklentilerin kar\u015f\u0131lan(a)mamas\u0131, de\u011fi\u015fmesi i\u00e7in m\u00fccadele edilen ama de\u011fi\u015fmeyen \u015feyler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yine ayn\u0131 a\u015fk ili\u015fkilerinin, patriyarkal kapitalist sistemin y\u00fczeyselli\u011finden nasibini alarak yok edici bir ili\u015fki yuma\u011f\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne \u015fahit oluruz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman. Sevginin \u00e7oklu\u011fuyla ya da azl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fclen ili\u015fkiler, kasvetli hava, incitici s\u00f6zler, k\u0131r\u0131lgan anlar ve hakk\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 helal etmedi\u011fimiz pi\u015fmanl\u0131klarla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Peri masal\u0131, yava\u015f yava\u015f tam da biz feministlerin s\u00f6yledi\u011fi gibi, \u201c\u00f6ld\u00fcren sevgi istemiyoruz\u201d a d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0130\u015fte duygusal ili\u015fkilerimizin i\u00e7inde maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, bu \u00f6zel ili\u015fki bi\u00e7imine yani \u201ctoksik ili\u015fki\u201dye yo\u011funla\u015faca\u011f\u0131z. Bir o yana bir bu yana y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, her y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda parampar\u00e7a olan ki\u015fili\u011fimiz, duygular\u0131m\u0131z, etrafa sa\u00e7\u0131lan k\u0131r\u0131k kalplerimize\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u0130li\u015fkilerimiz nas\u0131l ve neden zehirledi bizi?<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Toksik ili\u015fki: Patriyarkal kapitalist sistemin getirdi\u011fi e\u015fitsizliklerin, tahakk\u00fcm ili\u015fkilerinin, \u015fiddetin \u00e7\u0131plak ama ince bi\u00e7imlerle romantik ili\u015fkimize sirayet etmesi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De\u011fer yitimi ya\u015famaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, ili\u015fkinin sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131n bir tarafa b\u0131rak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 hezimet hali, yo\u011fun manip\u00fclasyonlar\u0131n ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131, farkl\u0131 \u015fiddet bi\u00e7imlerinin (mansplaining, manterrupting, gaslighting, ghostling, lovebombing\u2026) i\u00e7 i\u00e7e ge\u00e7ti\u011fi karma\u015f\u0131k bir s\u00fcre\u00e7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6nce anlam veremeyiz, hatta erkek egemen sevgi anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6lgesinde \u201cnormal bu\u201d gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Fakat ya\u015fan\u0131lan \u015feyler tam da ba\u015fta s\u00f6yledi\u011fimiz gibi b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fczel duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 belirsiz bir h\u00e2le getirirken \u201cbu mu ger\u00e7ekten?\u201d deriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u00fcrekli tart\u0131\u015fma ve kavga, g\u00fcvenle ilgili problemler, duygusal manip\u00fclasyon, ele\u015ftiri ve a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lama, ilgisizlik, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k, \u015fiddet (fiziksel, duygusal, cinsel\u2026), s\u00fcrekli su\u00e7lanmak (buna <em>skor kart\u0131<\/em> da denilmekte, zamanla \u2018kim di\u011ferini daha \u00e7ok yaralad\u0131\u2019 ya da \u2018kim di\u011ferine daha \u00e7ok bor\u00e7lu\u2019, pasif agresif davran\u0131\u015flar, duygusal \u015fantajlar, ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 bilmemek, biriken k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu atmosfer bas\u0131nc\u0131nda ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz sonlar\u0131n ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131 stres, anksiyete, depresyon, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck \u00f6zg\u00fcven, manip\u00fclasyona a\u00e7\u0131k bir karakter olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tesad\u00fcf olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyoruz. Bu sonuca gelene kadar hayat bize epey sinyal vermi\u015ftir ama \u00e7o\u011fu zaman duymay\u0131z, duysak da umursamay\u0131z ya da fark etsek de hemen vazge\u00e7emeyiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Patriyarkal kapitalist sahiplik ili\u015fkisi dimdik ayakta<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kad\u0131n hareketi, y\u0131llard\u0131r patriyarkal kapitalist ili\u015fkilerin g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen eme\u011fimiz ba\u015fta olmak \u00fczere, kad\u0131n eme\u011fi d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki yap\u0131lar\u0131\/alanlar\u0131 nas\u0131l \u015fekillendirdi\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131karmak i\u00e7in politik bir m\u00fccadele veriyor. \u0130kinci dalga feminizmin s\u0131k\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131 sar\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u201c\u00f6zel olan politiktir\u201d s\u00f6ylemi; tek ba\u015f\u0131na bir tan\u0131y\u0131 de\u011fil, bize \u00f6zel alanlar\u0131m\u0131zda her daim uyan\u0131k olmam\u0131z\u0131 da telkin eden bir uyan\u0131\u015f halidir. Romantik sevgiliden zorbaya, oradan da katile d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fen erkeklerin d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hat\u0131rlay\u0131nca, bunun hi\u00e7 de yanl\u0131\u015f bir telkin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n da fark\u0131nday\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00fclnur Savran\u2019\u0131n da belirtti\u011fi gibi, \u015fiddetin temelinde patriarkal sahiplik- m\u00fclkiyet ili\u015fkisi yatar. Patriyarkal ili\u015fkilerin bi\u00e7im de\u011fi\u015ftirmesinden \u00f6te patriyarkal ili\u015fkilerin \u00e7e\u015fitlenmesinin, \u00e7o\u011fulla\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131n sonucunda, farkl\u0131 ili\u015fkilerin bir arada olmas\u0131n\u0131n bir yans\u0131mas\u0131d\u0131r \u201ctoksik ili\u015fkiler\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0130kili cinsiyet sisteminin g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fam\u0131n her alan\u0131na yay\u0131lmas\u0131 ile egemen-resmi devlet ideolojisinin totaliter-otoriter bas\u0131nc\u0131; sald\u0131rgan toplumsal karakterlerin olu\u015fmas\u0131na, g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fam\u0131n giderek irrasyonel hale gelmesine sebep oluyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De\u011fil hakikati \u00f6\u011frenmeyi, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmenin bile nostalji oldu\u011fu; ya\u015fam\u0131n ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n silindi\u011fi b\u00f6yle bir ortamda, duygusal-romantik ili\u015fkilerimiz art\u0131k <em>yabanc\u0131la\u015fma<\/em> olana\u011f\u0131 bile bulamadan \u2018<em>\u015fey\u2019le\u015fiyor <\/em>ve gene b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131n do\u011fal sonucu olarak sert bir bi\u00e7imde sald\u0131rganla\u015f\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0130\u015fte bu cenderenin i\u00e7inde kad\u0131nlar\u0131n g\u00fc\u00e7lenme pratiklerini \u201cyine ve yeniden nas\u0131l in\u015fa edece\u011fiz\u201d sorusu g\u00fcndemimize geliyor.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim safsatas\u0131 de\u011fil kad\u0131n hareketi ile g\u00fc\u00e7lenme<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6ncelikle ba\u015ftan s\u00f6yleyelim, pop\u00fcler s\u00f6ylemle \u201ch\u0131zl\u0131ca toparlan ve kendine gel\u201d de\u011fil demek istedi\u011fimiz. K\u00fcllerinden do\u011fma hikayesi yazmaktan da bahsetmiyoruz. Ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za gelenleri s\u0131radanla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p tekil hikayelermi\u015f gibi de alg\u0131lam\u0131yoruz, iyile\u015fmeyenlere kar\u015f\u0131 hissedilen \u201cellerinden geleni yapmayan tembeller\u201d olarak da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmedi\u011fimize g\u00f6re.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Demek istedi\u011fimiz, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7o\u011fu \u015feyin patriyarkal kapitalist sistemin hayatlar\u0131m\u0131za yans\u0131mas\u0131 oldu\u011fu. Hayatlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bir k\u0131ska\u00e7 alt\u0131na almas\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu y\u00fczden her deneyim, g\u00fc\u00e7lenme pratiklerimize katk\u0131 da sa\u011fl\u0131yor. Deneyimlerimiz farkl\u0131 u\u00e7lara savrulmadan kad\u0131n hareketinin birikimlerine ak\u0131yor, onun birikimlerinden de faydalan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mesela \u015fu an toksik ili\u015fki sarmal\u0131nda olan bir kad\u0131n kendi ki\u015fisel duru\u015funu in\u015fa ederken, elini psikoloji kitaplar\u0131na uzatacak; okudu\u011fu her yaz\u0131dan, aforizmadan kendine ders \u00e7\u0131kartmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facak. Birey olarak \u00e7ubu\u011fu kendisine do\u011fru b\u00fckecek, ili\u015fkisini d\u00fczeltmek i\u00e7in kendisini geli\u015ftirmenin dehlizlerine dalacak. Bu, ilerlemeyi, d\u00fczelmeyi bireyden bekleyen kapitalist sistemin yans\u0131mas\u0131. Ya da herhangi bir yap\u0131da \u00f6rg\u00fctl\u00fc bir kad\u0131n, \u00f6rg\u00fctl\u00fc ya\u015famda t\u00fcm sorunlar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclecek, kendisi dayat\u0131lan b\u00fct\u00fcn ezilme bi\u00e7imlerinden azadeymi\u015f gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnecek. Ama maalesef \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bireysel de\u011fi\u015fimde olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi \u00f6rg\u00fctlenince de t\u00fcm sorunlar \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeyecek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Her bir deneyim hepimize \u015funu g\u00f6steriyor san\u0131r\u0131m, kendimizi bilin\u00e7lendirerek ya da bah\u00e7emizdeki otlar\u0131 toplayarak kurtulamayaca\u011f\u0131z bu ili\u015fkilerden. Kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015feyler, tarihsel yap\u0131sal sorunlar\u0131n hayat\u0131m\u0131za yans\u0131malar\u0131 ve s\u00fcrekli m\u00fccadele gerektiren \u015feyler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00fc\u00e7lenme bireysel olarak \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclecek bir mesele de\u011fil, hem bireysel hem toplumsal hem de \u00f6rg\u00fctsel bir b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fck ister.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu y\u00fczden <em>g\u00fc\u00e7 ve g\u00fc\u00e7lenme <\/em>ile daha sahici bir ili\u015fki kurmak gerekiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00fc\u00e7 sadece bir kuvvet bi\u00e7imi de\u011fildir, ya\u015fam s\u00fcrecinin vazge\u00e7ilmez bir tarifidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131k korkusu i\u00e7imize o kadar yerle\u015fir ki, meydan okumaktan, risk almaktan, geli\u015fmekten, zorluklar\u0131 g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcslemekten, yeti\u015fkinlerin d\u00fcnyas\u0131na girmekten, kendimizi dinlemekten, iktidarda olmaktan aktif olarak ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen toksik ili\u015fkilerden kurtulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken, bir d\u00f6ng\u00fcn\u00fcn i\u00e7inde tak\u0131l\u0131p kald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebiliriz. Karar almak, o ili\u015fkiden kopmak, ad\u0131mlar atmak zor gelebilir. G\u00fc\u00e7lenme yo\u011fun emeklerle i\u00e7eriden geli\u015ftirilebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tam da bu s\u00fcre\u00e7lerin i\u00e7inde g\u00fcc\u00fcn farkl\u0131 bi\u00e7imlerini de ke\u015ffediyoruz, deneyimliyoruz kad\u0131n m\u00fccadelesinde. Var olma sanc\u0131lar\u0131, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n kendilerini onaylamas\u0131, potansiyellerini a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p kendilerini ortaya koymas\u0131, \u201cs\u00f6zde sevginin\u201d k\u0131skac\u0131ndan kurtulma prati\u011fi olarak terk etme, ayr\u0131lma sanc\u0131lar\u0131, ili\u015fkide edilgenle\u015fmeyi reddetme, \u00f6z savunma pratikleri, \u00f6rg\u00fctlenmeye tutunma \u00e7abalar\u0131, iktidar\u0131 ele ge\u00e7irmeyi isteme, sahay\u0131 erkeklere b\u0131rakmama, karma \u00f6rg\u00fctlerimizde kad\u0131nlar\u0131n pozisyonlar\u0131n\u0131 kal\u0131c\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rma \u00e7abalar\u0131m\u0131z\u2026 hepsi bu g\u00fc\u00e7lenme pratiklerinin birer yans\u0131mas\u0131. En \u00f6nemlisi de feminizme tutunmak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sara Ahmed\u2019in dedi\u011fi gibi feminizmin vaadine tutunmak, hayat\u0131n\u0131 o kelimeyi sahiplenerek ya\u015famak, onun ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda m\u00fccadele etmek; onun ini\u015f \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda, gelgitlerinde kendi gelgitlerini hissetmek g\u00fc\u00e7lenme ve \u00f6rg\u00fctlenme pratiklerimize anlam katmaya devam edecek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Kaynaklar;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Chollet, Mona \u201cA\u015fk\u0131 yeniden icat etmek-patriyarka heteroseks\u00fcel ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l sabote ediyor?<\/em>&#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Acar-Savran, G\u00fclnur \u201cBeden Emek Tarih\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Dowling, Collette \u201cSindrella Kompleksi\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*May, Rollo \u201cG\u00fc\u00e7 ve Masumiyet\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Ceylan, Nuri Bilge \u201cK\u0131\u015f Uykusu\u201d filmi<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Ahmed, Sara \u201cFeminist Bir Ya\u015fam S\u00fcrmek\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>* <\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.5harfliler.com\/kullerinden-dogmayan-kadinlar-ya-bizi-oldurmeyen-sey-guclendirmiyorsa\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>https:\/\/www.5harfliler.com\/kullerinden-dogmayan-kadinlar-ya-bizi-oldurmeyen-sey-guclendirmiyorsa\/<\/em><\/a><em><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cEn iyi y\u0131llar\u0131m u\u00e7up gitti. Seninle cebelle\u015fece\u011fim diye b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fczel huylar\u0131m de\u011fi\u015fti. Sert, kaba, \u00fcrkek, i\u015fkilli bir insan oldum.\u201d K\u0131\u015f Uykusu filminin bir sahnesinde, Nihan karakterinin evli oldu\u011fu erkekle diyalo\u011fu. Gen\u00e7, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, gururlu ve hayat dolu bir kad\u0131nken ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 toksik ili\u015fki y\u00fcz\u00fcnden bo\u015flukta, can s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131 ve korku i\u00e7inde eriyip giden, hayat\u0131 kemirilen, g\u00fcc\u00fc kalmayan bir&hellip;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":47,"featured_media":4067,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","_eb_attr":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1249],"tags":[476,1434,477],"ppma_author":[606],"class_list":["post-4066","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-iliskiler","tag-orgutlufeministmucadele","tag-siddet-bicimleri","tag-toksikiliski","author-silan-surmeli"],"authors":[{"term_id":606,"user_id":47,"is_guest":0,"slug":null,"display_name":"\u015eilan S\u00fcrmeli","avatar_url":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/wp-content\/litespeed\/avatar\/642192fffc92394f57becaef99e55db6.jpg?ver=1784221682","author_category":"","first_name":"\u015eilan","last_name":"S\u00fcrmeli","user_url":"","job_title":"","description":"Silan Surmeli"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4066","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/47"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4066"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4066\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4067"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4066"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4066"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4066"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=4066"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}