T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de bir kad\u0131n olarak ya\u015fam s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmenin ne kadar zor oldu\u011funu iyi biliyor ve hissediyoruz. Toplumsal cinsiyet e\u015fitsizli\u011fi alm\u0131\u015f ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 gidiyor, konumumuz yerlerde s\u00fcr\u00fckleniyor. Bedenlerimizin de bir ya\u011fma alan\u0131 haline geldi\u011fi bir s\u00fcre\u00e7ten ge\u00e7iyoruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Devletin erkek egemen zihniyetinin hayatlar\u0131m\u0131za sald\u0131r\u0131s\u0131 katmerlenerek art\u0131yor. Hali haz\u0131rda var olma m\u00fccadelesi verdi\u011fimiz, ya\u015fanabilir bir hayat i\u00e7in hak alma \u00e7abalar\u0131m\u0131z devam ederken, bu zihniyet var olan haklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da gasp etmeye u\u011fra\u015f\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015e\u00f6yle bir geriye d\u00f6n\u00fcp bakal\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2016 Haziran\u2019\u0131nda Bo\u015fanma Komisyonu\u2019nun (isminin uzunlu\u011fu gereksiz oldu\u011fu kadar niteliksiz de) sundu\u011fu 456 sayfal\u0131k rapor; devletin kad\u0131na y\u00f6nelik bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, neler yapmak istedi\u011fini ve nas\u0131l m\u00fcdahalede bulunabilece\u011fini sayfa sayfa anlat\u0131r nitelikteydi. Had\u0131m\u0131, istismarda delil zorunlu\u011funu, arabuluculuk uygulamas\u0131n\u0131 o zamandan yazd\u0131lar ve s\u00fcre\u00e7 i\u00e7erisinde pi\u015firip \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze getirdiler. \u015eimdilerde ise yanda\u015f medyan\u0131n m\u00fcjde diye nitelendirdi\u011fi nafaka (vermeme) yasas\u0131 \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fczde. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne Yapmak \u0130stiyorlar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBo\u015fan\u0131rsam nas\u0131l ya\u015far\u0131m?\u201d sorusu kafas\u0131n\u0131 kurcalarken bir kad\u0131n\u0131n bo\u015fanma talebinin, davas\u0131n\u0131n dahi \u00f6l\u00fcmlere yol a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fclkemizde, kad\u0131n bo\u015fanamas\u0131n diye u\u011fra\u015fm\u0131\u015f ve bu tasar\u0131y\u0131 icat etmi\u015fler. Medeni Kanun\u2019daki mevcut haliyle \u201ckusuru daha a\u011f\u0131r olmamak ko\u015fuluyla ge\u00e7imi i\u00e7in di\u011fer taraftan mal\u00ee g\u00fcc\u00fc oran\u0131nda s\u00fcresiz olarak nafaka istenebilir\u201d \u015feklinde belirtilmi\u015f olan nafaka hakk\u0131n\u0131, evli kalma s\u00fcresi, \u00e7ocuk olup olmamas\u0131, bo\u015fanan kad\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015f\u0131, gelir durumu ve kusur durumu dikkate al\u0131narak hesaplanmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ng\u00f6r\u00fcyorlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kendi medyalar\u0131nda erkek ma\u011fduriyeti olarak de\u011ferlendirdikleri \u201cs\u00fcresiz\u201d k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 kald\u0131rmak istiyorlar. Herhalde \u201cnafaka, alacakl\u0131 taraf\u0131n yeniden evlenmesi ya da taraflardan birinin \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc h\u00e2linde kendili\u011finden kalkar; alacakl\u0131 taraf\u0131n evlenme olmaks\u0131z\u0131n fiilen evliymi\u015f gibi ya\u015famas\u0131, yoksullu\u011funun ortadan kalkmas\u0131 ya da haysiyetsiz hayat s\u00fcrmesi h\u00e2linde mahkeme karar\u0131yla kald\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r.\u201d k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Zira var olan haliyle nafaka zaten s\u00fcresiz de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda verdikleri \u201c1 ay evli kal, \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu nafaka al\u201d \u00f6rnekleri de T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i de\u011fil. Bo\u015fanma davalar\u0131n\u0131n aylarca uzad\u0131\u011f\u0131, bahsetti\u011fimiz gibi cinayetlerin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fti\u011fi adalet ve aile sisteminde ve bu maddelerin zorlu\u011funda bir kad\u0131n\u0131n s\u00fcresiz nafaka alabildi\u011fi enderdir. Yaln\u0131zca g\u00f6rmek istedikleri istatistiklere bakt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n yahut do\u011frudan uydurduklar\u0131n\u0131n resmidir bu durum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kabul Etmiyoruz!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kad\u0131n\u0131 eve, \u201ckutsal aileye\u201d, g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen eme\u011fe, g\u00fcvencesiz i\u015f\u00e7ili\u011fe, kocaya ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 k\u0131lmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131; \u2018bo\u015fanma k\u0131r dizini ve bu rollerde ya\u015fa\u2019 dedikleri bir atmosferde; zaten kad\u0131nlara y\u00f6nelik insani ya\u015fama \u015fartlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc a\u00e7acak, tecav\u00fczleri ortadan kald\u0131racak, bak\u0131m eme\u011fini kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinden al\u0131p toplumsalla\u015ft\u0131racak yasalar yapmalar\u0131n\u0131 beklemek abesle i\u015ftigal olur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nafaka hakk\u0131 medeni kanunun \u00f6nemli maddelerinden biriyken b\u00f6ylesi bir s\u00fcre\u00e7te; biz kad\u0131nlar\u0131n bug\u00fcne kadar di\u015fimizle, t\u0131rna\u011f\u0131m\u0131zla s\u00f6k\u00fcp ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z haklar\u0131m\u0131za sahip \u00e7\u0131kmam\u0131z gerekiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yar\u0131n\u0131m\u0131za y\u00f6n verebilmek i\u00e7in ve gasp etmeye u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 di\u011fer haklar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in de m\u00fccadele etmeli, ayn\u0131 zamanda var olan sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n iyile\u015ftirilmesine y\u00f6nelik kendi s\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczle, eylemimizle yasa \u00f6nerilerimizi dillendirmeliyiz.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de bir kad\u0131n olarak ya\u015fam s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmenin ne kadar zor oldu\u011funu iyi biliyor ve hissediyoruz. Toplumsal cinsiyet e\u015fitsizli\u011fi alm\u0131\u015f ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 gidiyor, konumumuz yerlerde s\u00fcr\u00fckleniyor. Bedenlerimizin de bir ya\u011fma alan\u0131 haline geldi\u011fi bir s\u00fcre\u00e7ten ge\u00e7iyoruz. Devletin erkek egemen zihniyetinin hayatlar\u0131m\u0131za sald\u0131r\u0131s\u0131 katmerlenerek art\u0131yor. Hali haz\u0131rda var olma m\u00fccadelesi verdi\u011fimiz, ya\u015fanabilir bir hayat i\u00e7in hak alma \u00e7abalar\u0131m\u0131z devam…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":2461,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","_eb_attr":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[544],"tags":[637,1285,1426],"ppma_author":[573],"class_list":["post-2460","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-hukuk","tag-bosanma-2","tag-medeni-kanun","tag-nafaka","author-mor-dayanisma"],"authors":[{"term_id":573,"user_id":5,"is_guest":0,"slug":"mor-dayanisma","display_name":"Mor Dayan\u0131\u015fma","avatar_url":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/wp-content\/litespeed\/avatar\/18b1bff8d2c98eaf6f87c388a27f2cfa.jpg?ver=1788268176","author_category":"1","first_name":"Mor","last_name":"Dayan\u0131\u015fma","user_url":"","job_title":"","description":"Contact<\/a>\r\n\r\ndayanismamor@gmail.com"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2460","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2460"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2460\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2461"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2460"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2460"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2460"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mordayanisma.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=2460"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}